Confidence is not the easiest quality to wear every day when you’re facing the complexities of the world – especially in your turbulent 20s. Nonetheless, your 20s are the prime years to focus on your self-worth, your growth, and building your self-confidence. However, your 20s are also filled with ups and downs and many highs and lows. With career/school changes, housing decisions, relationship decisions, and the thousands of other decisions you make in your 20s, it can be hard to always feel confident in yourself and in the decisions you’re making. Especially when you keep hitting obstacles and getting knocked down, or rerouted.
This is why it’s super important that we learn how to be confident, and that we learn confidence-boosting strategies so that in time we begin to feel more comfortable with who we are and how we show up in the world. With that, here are 5 ways to build your self-confidence in your 20s!
1. Please stop comparing yourself
This tip is huge! And I know you have heard it time and time again but it is so true! Comparison is the thief of joy. We know we shouldn’t compare ourselves – and that it only leads to unhappiness and misery. But, in most cases, that it is often easier said than done. However, I believe that once we begin to celebrate and admire our own originality, uniqueness, and personality – that’s when comparison will begin to disappear out of our subconscious.
It is so crucial to remember that everyone is different! You are your own individual person with an individual mind and thoughts, and these thoughts, ideas, beliefs, etc. are what make you, you. And if you have to say it a million times a day to remind yourself then, please, do it! The world is beautiful because of how different we are from the next person. You can be your own masterpiece and still admire other people’s work of art! I actually have an entire post on how to overcome the common areas of comparison and learn to celebrate your originality! This is key when learning how to build your self-confidence!
2. Accept things you can’t control
This is another tough one, but it’s one that we all must accept and practice each day. It’s important to know that accepting that there will be times when you will not be able to control every situation is a building block of constructing your confidence. You’re letting the universe play out how it’s supposed to and giving yourself the assurance that you can handle whatever you’re given. No matter the situation. Just like that old saying, “if it’s meant to be, it will be.” Acceptance of unmanageable situations is your key to peace of mind.
3. Add self-love to your daily routine
Whether you have to read morning affirmations, or leave yourself an inspiring quote on your bedside table about self-love, or literally saying it to your reflection in the bathroom mirror when you wake up every day, expressing self-love is a must! Establishing a committed love and respect for yourself is a prime foundation that will allow you to accept nothing less from any person or the world. Building and maintaining confidence starts with you, and self-love needs to be part of who you are!
4. Know and use your strengths
Whether it’s at work, in school, or in your personal life, learn to acknowledge your strengths and practice being intentional about using your strengths. If you know that you’re a great communicator and have a lot of confidence talking in front of people, maybe you should be in a field in which you are presenting or training people. Additionally, if you thrive in an organization with many people, perhaps you should be working in a field such as an event planner. Or even social media or corporate management!
Try to find a job, or a role in your current job, that allows you to thrive from and build on your strengths. You will feel more confident because you will be in a field in which your strengths are shining through. Plus, it will allow you to be more comfortable. Feeling confident in one area of life will help you in other areas where you are less confident or comfortable. Start with one area at a time and let your strengths shine through! I mean, you have them for a reason, why not take advantage of them!
5. Appreciate where you are in life right now
We are all on different paths and walks of life at different times. This goes along with comparison as well! If you put so much time and energy into where you want to be in life without acknowledging where you are now, you’re constantly going to be pushing yourself to be better. Yet, even when you get to where you want to be, you’re more likely to want to strive for better and better. This goes along with that certain mindset that you’ve already established.
Unfortunately, when you do this, you might even start to put down where you are now or believe you have not accomplished enough. It’s always good to learn, grow, and to set goals, however, it’s also extremely important to realize how far you have come. To be confident and to truly have a good relationship with yourself, it’s really important to celebrate the little successes every day. It’s important to find happiness in who you are today and to understand that you are a full, complete human being exactly as you are in life right now. There is no correct timeline that you have to be following!
I hope you enjoyed these 5 tips on how to build your self-confidence!
Do you have any other tips you would add to this list?
I would love to hear them in the comments!
Have a beautiful day!